How Men Should Approach Mixed Rec. Play
This video is a bit different. My channel is for men, but this is a story about something that happened this morning in mixed play with a female pickleball friend of mine.
In pro pickleball you'll see women screaming in men's faces, performative stare-downs, and a hyper-competitive intensity. That has a ripple effect. Girls and women who watch often adopt a masculine, hierarchical frame they weren't designed for.
On a larger scale, hyper-competitiveness becomes the expectation even in rec. play. Women who just want to have fun and don't care about the competitive side feel pressured to focus and compete harder than is natural for them. In this case, my friend thought there was something wrong with her.
As men in recreational mixed doubles, we can lead women away from that frame with wisdom and with our own behavior: play mixed like a family board game, not a war.
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